Conflict is an inevitable part of life. However, we all have within us the ability to sustain relationships even when we deeply disagree. Here are seven Talmudic steps to follow when confronted with a
conflict in a Relationship. 1. Give Yourself a Break : Sometimes you need some distance-some time to cool off and reflect. A time out can be a great thing, as long as its design is to bring you back together. So this timeout should be for a very limited amount designed to bring you back together.
2. Respect the Other Person's Dignity : The one whom you are in conflict with should never lose their value as a human being. No matter how right you think you are and how wrong they may be, don't deny their dignity; you will do more harm than good.
3. Experience Radical Empathy : We must do everything in our power to identify with the other person and their position before fighting for our own.
4. Acknowledge Your Partner's Wisdom : Before we can be their teacher, we must first become their student. We must accept that no matter how wrong someone is about one thing, they are unlikely to be wrong about everything. Nobody is smart enough to be 100 percent right or dumb enough to be 100 percent wrong.
5. Know That Conflict Hurts Everyone : Appreciate that even when we are doing everything right in handling our relationships, we all pay a price when a conflict unfolds.
6. Look First to Yourself : We all play the blame game sometimes, but it's important to point a thumb back at ourselves before a finger at the other person.
7. Remember, Being Right Is Not Enough : Remind ourselves that the only real justification for conflict with those about whom we care is that it addresses an issue, which is central to sustaining the relationship over time. If it's just about being right, then it probably isn't worth it.
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